Stop Whining...Start Being

I wasn't going to write a post today but something won't leave my thoughts. Seeing a million Facebook posts about feminists wanting more, wanting to surpass men in all of these areas has made me passionate about something.

Stop whining about not having and getting...and start doing and being.

For those of you who know me, know that I am absolutely in love with the television show "Castle" and absolutely hate most other shows on television shows today. Why do I love this show? Because it has developed a story of people with strong character, strong morals and strong relationships.

It made me think...what makes Kate Beckett different than the other heroines that we see on television today?

The difference is that she is a strong female who shows her strength because of who she is. She doesn't need to strive to be more or "better" than her male colleagues or her husband. She just has a strong work ethic and strong moral code. In that, she allows her husband to shine rather than feel threatened by him. She can be "proud to be his wife" and do great things BECAUSE she is his wife, not in spite of it.

This is what I hope women would start doing more of. Rather than always being in competition with EVERYONE around us, lets just be us. Let's be the best version of ourselves and in that, allow other people to shine. Let's be PROUD of our husbands, and in that encourage them to be their best selves. Let's be proud to be a friend, a daughter, a mother, a woman of faith, an employee,or a business owner and work to help others make their dreams come true.

I want to hear people stop talking about how we are treated unfairly and start BEING people that actually change lives. Let's develop our character, our kindness, our work ethic, our relationships, and our joy. Let's become women of character of whom people ask us to come along side them and make change, rather than telling others what we are owed.

Let's change the world because of WHO we are, not because of WHAT we want.